The EU is doing a big survey for LGBTQ people who live in the EU about how it is for them right now. That's the kind of survey that's used for official reports and for laws so it's super important that it has as many people taking it as possible. You can take it in every EU language. (You can change the language in the top right corner) Share it with your friends!

https://www.lgbtiqsurvey.eu/lgbtiq

"europeans are soooo much more enlightened and anti-racist than americans" haha sooo true, quick question, how do you feel about romani people?

post breached containment and now americans in the notes are doing the exact same thing but in reverse. you are also not more enlightened and anti-racist than europe.

so here's a thing about gender, there's a hierarchy of acceptable approaches to it:

• ideally, you strongly align with the gender you were assigned at birth
• failing that, you should strongly align with the socially-dominant gender that you weren't assigned at birth
• if you can't manage that, you should at least have strong feelings about pronouns

which means that if you don't have a particular internal gender alignment and don't care about pronouns, you're left feeling like you've failed at being cis and also failed at being trans

From the substack post above, which contains the link to a preprint of the academic article:

When I began my research, I planned to compare the experiences of asexual men, asexual women, and “beyond the binary” asexuals. I ended up interviewing 77 people under the asexuality umbrella.

But there was a major problem. About a third of the people I interviewed didn’t really fit into any gender category.

These individuals felt that gender presentation and/or identity was unimportant, pointless, and/or oppressive. They didn’t want to be understood through the lens of gender. I ended up coining the term “gender detachment” to describe these feelings (though, as some you helpfully pointed out, there are other terms, like autigender, neutrois, etc. that get at similar ideas).

It me

Gender Detachment flag

Made a flag for gender detachment 😄

You are free to use it and modify it.

ALT

The circle represents the gender and the “holes” represent the detachment. The colors don’t have a specific meaning, but you can give them one if you want. Got inspired by the asexual flag.

ALT

And made one without the dotted circle. You’re also free to use it and modify it.

ALT

i feel so seen!!

(twitter thread)

This is so me. Like I was born with a vagina, grew up being automatically perceived as a woman, I certainly then do understand women’s experiences because they are my experiences too, but if you call me a dude or non-binary or anything else I’ll be just like “sure”. I don’t care. I don’t see why it’s so important for people to be seen and addressed as part of a gender. Like sure, if you want me to treat you a certain way based on your gender then sure, whatever. But like, I never really got it. I’m detached from gender as a whole. Use whatever pronouns, it doesn’t matter to me. But yeah if I had to identify myself to someone my default thing would be calling myself a nerd, or a mentally disordered person, or a person in my 30s, a TTRPG player, a gamer, a LPOTL fan, a music lover, like… I feel those things define me and explain who I am much more than “cis woman” as a gender, however I care so little about gender that I’m not even gonna bother telling people I’m “actually not cis” or whatever, I just don’t care enough. Gender is a non-entity to me. Or like, it’s so irrelevant I might as well go with whatever other people call me because correcting them is not important enough. Sure I’m a cis woman. Sure I’m non-binary. Sure I’m a guy. Whatever helps you making sense of me as a person. And god, this article GETS it. Some of the responses in it are word for word stuff I might have said, to the point I asked myself “wait am I in this” multiple times.

So guess I can say my definition wrt gender is “gender detached”. Or “degenderate” (I like it because it’s very tongue in cheek and I also like being a “degenerate” lmao).

Proship is inherently pro-kink

If you wanna argue, my ask box or (pref) the block button is right there

painfully true

Imagine saying "where sweets are baked, not bought" about the decade that invented blue raspberry

Be the kind of writer that antis block on sight.

Being an actor keeps me sane. Yeah I have to work a day job but know what? When my day job is stressful and I want to scream I get to go hey wait. I have a scream scheduled at 7:30 tonight. Gotta save up. And then I go back to what I was doing.

I have a scream scheduled, I have a kiss scheduled, I have an argument scheduled, I have a making up scheduled, I have a sing and dance scheduled, I have a get slapped in the face scheduled, I have a cry scheduled, whatever. It’s all good.

Something something the Greeks were right about catharsis.

ohhhhhhhhhh my god and when you argue you always have a comeback, and when you make up there’s no lingering anger, and when you scream you don’t have to hold back, and when you get slapped in the face you know you’re safe, and when you cry you know all will be well.

Oh and if it doesn’t turn out and your character dies or something well then you can go to the greenroom and have a snack and that’s good too.

Everyone saying “oh like bdsm” or “oh like larping.” Yes. Humans thrive on imagination and play in many ways.

if you’re on tumblr and over the age of 24 it means the mental illness won

inspired by junji ito posing in the barbie box

Yeah, no, heads up, we've got a Republican Christian Karen type, Audrey Richards, running for the AO3/OTW board. I love how the US has devolved to the point where we risk Christofascists in our fucking GAY FANFICTION WEBSITES. I think a Republican party candidate whose main platform is literally "think of the children" is the absolute antithesis of everything AO3 stands for, but that's just me.